As I write this, I am nine months pregnant and I just hired the last person on my birth-care team, my postpartum doula. . .
Incase you don’t know what a postpartum doula does, she cares for the mamma to come back to herself. . .
In my case I have hired an ayurvedic one, who will make me ayurvedic foods (best for nourishing after birth) give me warm oil massage, bring me yoni steam baths so my body can be supported in it’s healing, wrap my belly to take help with the recovery of the empty space left after the baby is born and more…
Just as soon as she left, I heard my husband say: “ this is one luxurious birth experience….”
Hmmm… well… while I am deeply grateful for the opportunity and abundance that we have created that allows me this kind of care, I do not agree that this is exactly a luxury…
You see even a few years ago, when I was a little less solid in my nourishing of self and soul, I may have let this comment get a hold of me, embarrass me, or bring up my unworthiness…
I would have taken that comment to mean…
Who am I to?
Am I spending too much money?
Do I really need this?
To be a mom means to sacrifice, etc, etc….
Thankfully that most important question I have learned to ask myself while doing life, having a business, teaching and holding space for others, being a wife and friend has been
What will nourish me…?
I not only ask this question many times a day, but also have come to trust the answer and to follow it.
Sometimes what would nourish me is writing an email to you, other times it’s a cup of tea, a bath, a nap, or even reaching out to clients and making sure they have what they need from me.
It’s never the same thing, but the quality of the question is what provides what needs to happen for you to live your best life.
So whether you are a mom or not, but especially if you are, I suggest you get on board with this question and trust it.
What would nourish me?
Don’t worry about what comes up and how much money or time it requires from you to follow the guidance.
I promise if you try it, it will change your life…
It will also change the lives of those around you.
Your partner, your children, your work team, your money, your everything will thank you!
Here is the thing though, while so many will benefit from your deep nourishment beyond what they know, they will never choose it for you if you don’t.
My amazing husband is deeply supportive of the feminine and he just happen to say that, because through no fault of his own he cannot know what is being required of my body right now.
I say this to say, the journey of nourishment is one you are solely responsible for, you will have to claim it!
To give you an example of this, there is a woman in Beauty Unleashed who was really having a hard time connecting how her investing 12k in herself would benefit her family, when what she wants is to be contributing more.
I kept telling her that her job was to nourish herself and that as the mama and wife this would impact her family.
Ultimately she took a leap of faith and jumped in with excitement.
This same sister recently told me that even though our retreat was over a month ago, she has been having sex with her husband everyday since the retreat (they had pretty much stopped). Partly because her relationship with herself is changing, partly because she is nourished.
I bet you she will never again need 1 + 1 = 2 in order to invest in the deep nourishment of her soul.
So now go ask and follow…